We are all sensitive to your plight. We can offer suggestions and opinions, but they will all be based on what each of us knows from our own backgrounds. As you can see, these are obviously varied backgrounds.
The one common denominator we carry is your safety. It's easy for us to sit at our keyboards and hammer out instructions and ideas, but ultimately it is your final decision. We trust and hope that your decisions are all made with the best plan to maintain safety for you and all that is about you that you care about. Please do your best to maintain a cool head. Stay organized, document as much as you can, and continue to look further down the road.