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I sit here today with a heavy heart. This morning at about 3:10 PST my wife's father died.
This feels like such a one-two punch losing my father last year and now her father this year.
I'm posting this because I know many of you met my wife Ricki (aka JWHAP) at last year's Pond Boss conference.
I didn't want to burden the board with all the details of what has been going on in our family and apologize in advance for posting bad news yet again. This board is like family to me and many of you I consider personal friends and thus I felt inclined to post this news.
Ricki's dad, Charlie, was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig's disease in February. He valiantly fought the disease as long as possible but finally succumbed last night.
I mentioned before that Ricki was in Pennsylvania last month for a couple of weeks. What I left out was that the primary purpose of the trip was to spend time with her dad, coordinate in home health care and home modifications to make her dad as comfortable as possible.
We will be traveling back to PA probably tomorrow evening to attend services.
Charlie was a man's man. He served in the Army and then worked until retirement in a steel mill. In his younger years he made annual trips to a remote lake in Canada (not sure where) to fish for pike. He loved the outdoors, hunting and fishing. He was very excited when we purchased our pond property and our goal (prior to him coming down with the disease) to have them (Ricki's mom and dad) visit the property this summer.
Spend as much time as you can with your loved ones. Life can change drastically very quickly.
JHAP
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"My mind is a raging torrent, flooded with rivulets of thought cascading into a waterfall of creative alternatives."
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Jeff and Ricki, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Connie and I will have you in our thoughts and prayers.
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Sorry to hear of your loss...
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Jeff, sorry to hear the news. I hope you and Ricki are staying as positive as possible.
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Jeff, sorry to hear of your loss.
Express to Ricky our sincerest condolences.
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sorry for this sad update JHAP but thanks for sharing.
Big hugs from me and DWIED to both you and JWHAP, looking forward to a visit from you guys when things settle down.
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JHAP and JWHAP, we love you both, and we'll say lots of prayers.
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I am very sorry as well, but glad Ricki had the opportunity to spend time with her Dad before he went.
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Most sincere condolences to you both, and hopes for peace and strength during troubled times.
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Jhap I'm so sorry for your family's loss. That you choose to share this news with your PB Family speaks volumes of how you feel about us all - and I certainly return the sentiment.
My family will be sending all the positive vibes we can your way...
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Jhap,
I am so sorry for your string of losses. My deepest condolences go out to you and your family.
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Jeff, I'm so sorry to hear of your family's loss. God bless you and yours. Travel safe.
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Jeff, I'm sorry that you and Ricki have this to go thru again.
We're all thinking about you. Have a safe trip to PA and check in when you feel like it.
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Jeff, I am so sorry!!!!! I feel ike such an ass after the PM I sent. I just now read this. Anything you need, just ask man! Give Rikki a big hug for us!
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Our thoughts are with you, JHAP and JWHAP.
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Jeff it was a big help talking with you last year after our fathers died about the sametime. You now will have the experience to draw from to help out your lovely wife. My prayers are with your family.
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Donna and I will pray for strength for you, Ricki and your family.
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In lieu of words, I'll offer a Prayer.
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Ricki and Jeff our thoughts and prayers go out to you and all the family. We have no parents left and know your pain. We will light a candle for him. I'm sure he left you with some great memories which is a great legacy to leave.
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Sorry to hear about the loss of Ricki's father. It is hard to lose a father, let alone both or your fathers in a short period of time.
My father has been gone for many years, yet I still think about him every day. Remember the good times as you mourn. It will help.
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Thank you all for the kind words, thoughts and prayers, I truely appreciate it.
We were unable to get a flight out until early Thursday morning. The services are to be held on Friday. We'll be coming home on Monday. I'll probably be incommunicado until Tuesday (after I attend to some threads that require my immediate intervention).
JHAP
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Have a safe trip to PA... Be strong for your wife!
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My condolences to you and Riki, it's hard now but try to remember the good times.
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Jeff,I too am very sorry for your loss.Please express my and my familys condolances to Rikki and the rest of your family.Im sure you are aware that this comes from PB as a whole.My wife and I will save a hug for you and Rikki.Yall can collet at the conferance this year.And remember,although we dont get to keep our loved ones with us forever,we do get to keep the wonderful memories of them.Travel safe,my friend.
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Please give Ricki my condolences. You, her, and the rest of the family will be in my prayers.
"Only after sorrow's hand has bowed your head will life become truly real to you; then you will acquire the noble spirituality which intensifies the reality of life. I go to an all-powerful God. Beyond that I have no knowledge--no fear--only faith."
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Jeff and Ricki,
Please accept our condolences.
So many of us are in this "sandwich" generation of dealing with struggling parents and struggling offspring.
I believe we are only about an hour away from Ricki's home. If you should just need to get away from family and stress, please come visit and relax. We always have an extra room.
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Thanks once again everyone for the thoughts, prayers and kind words. The service was well attended, over 170 people signed the guest book. Ricki's dad was well loved and admired. We're here (in PA) until tomorrow, then we'll be flying back to CA.
JHAP
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It is so difficult to lose a loved one, especially a dad, right before Father's Day. It is very interesting how time really does heal these wounds, and if you had a good relationship and were involved in the care, over time it seems only the good memories remain.
I think once we lose our parents there is the overwhelming feeling of "I'm next." We love our family and friends, and there is some comfort here in knowing that your Father-In-Law didn't linger on and on with such a terrible disease like some do.
Take care of yourself and your wife.
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safe travels guys, keep DWIED and I updated for yer visit up nort.
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